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I see you tweet with a lot of #BBBH dudes. You play raw?

Thu, 23 May 2013 15:11:25 -0500

Nope, I do not.

Redditing...

Wed, 15 May 2013 07:57:00 -0500

Posted my face over to Reddit in a few spots…
http://goo.gl/2bnFE | http://goo.gl/w0Zf5 | http://goo.gl/Ek7RQ

Hey, I'm military, planning to spend my 21st in San Francisco, been in the bay area alot when I got the chance to take out leave. Anyways, I've always been interested in steamworks, but I'm new to being out in the open, as well as really nervous about my 'cruising skills' haha, as far as places like that go. I prefer twinks, I'm a top, but, like I said, my confidence falters when I'm in any kind of public thing beyond one on one interaction. Any advice? Things you can say about steamworks?

Sun, 12 May 2013 15:21:52 -0500

All my top tips and Steamworks advice lives here. Enjoy!

Should people say "18-25yr only", "No Bears", or "Whites and Latinos only" in their profile? Or is this kind of content inappropriate?

Thu, 28 Mar 2013 21:58:29 -0500

We all have our tastes, and we all have our preferences. I’ve met very very very few people who are into either everyone, or a super-wide-range of people, sexually. If most people were into everyone else, everyone would be getting laid a LOT more and people would be a LOT less frustrated.

However, most of us have people we’re into, people we aren’t. While we might not have as many hard-and-fast rules like the ones above (or we might have even more of them) it doesn’t change the fact that what arouses us generally is rather locked in place. If any shift occurs (which, often, it does not) it does so very slowly over time; we can’t just think “ooh, I’m going to be turned on by X now!” and suddenly POOF we’re all a flutter about a guy we never found sexually attractive 10 minutes prior.

Yet, when individuals contact one another in a bar, on a website / app, at a coffee house, etc, we can generally tell either by a first glance, photo, their profile information, the way we were contacted, or initial communications whether or not we’re interested in them. That’s not being prejudice, racist, rude, or cruel; it’s just simple human nature and knowing what does / doesn’t arouse us.

We’re experts at knowing what arouses us. Absolute experts. Studies show that almost all of us evaluate sexual interests all day long, nearly every day of our lives. We’re the kings of knowing what will, and won’t, get our motor running. So when we make a short and quick judgement about what we likely would find sexually acceptable, we’re generally on-point for our personal tastes. I know many men (including myself) have attempted to go against those ‘gut reactions’ only to find myself disappointed and unsatisfied (if not repulsed) in nearly all instances. Usually our gut, based on past experience with both in person interactions and media consumption, is spot on.

It’s entirely acceptable by society to turn someone away at a bar, coffee house, or online (politely, of course) because you aren’t turned on by them (for one, or more, reasons). Granted, generally we don’t say (unless asked) the reason(s) why we are rebuking their affections, but we still turn people down. Yet, it’s surprisingly NOT okay to be polite yet honest in profile text before people contact you. This, frankly, makes me very frustrated.

I don’t think it’s prejudice, racist, rude, or cruel to honestly politely write in a profile “sorry guys, X, Y, and Z are a no-go for me.” After all, dating & sexuality isn’t about just being friends with someone of a different weight, skin color, or age as you… this is about aesthetic sensations and sexual arousal. A beast that is much more personal and, while society tries to influence it, our sexual tastes ultimately are up to us to explore, test against, and discover on our own.

If we take a step back, we acknowledge that we do this for nearly all other aspects of our lives that we consume or customize (food, music, video games, movies, tv, weather, jobs, clothing, hair, electronics, art, etc). Further, when we do, our responses of disinterest are usually met with zero resistance. Sure, occasionally someone says “maybe you just had a bad Thai restaurant, you should try my favorite place, it’s rated really high on Zagat,” but usually we get people saying “oh, okay, cool” and it’s dropped; we’re not belittled or bullied (beyond perhaps a friend making a joke) simply because our personal tastes don’t match someone else’s.

However, I know many, Many, MANY people who have come down on others simply because that person openly said (rather than 1 on 1 in a private interaction via chat, etc) “sorry guys, X, Y, and Z are a no-go for me.” When I see situations like this, all I see is an individual who is saving themselves time and frustration from having to potentially turn down individuals, and saving others time by laying out what they find sexually interesting. Yet, those upfront people are trashed and called prejudice, racist, rude, or cruel.

People scratch their heads and wonder why dating culture and experiences are broken on a societal level, and why it’s so hard to just find someone you like, who likes you back…

But if we continue the aforementioned behavior of “don’t openly admit to who you find sexually attractive” we are, therein, building a societal model where we falsely require everyone to pretend like everyone is potentially sexually interested in them by denying people the ability to be honest about their desires. As a society we are undermining the very foundation of honesty and truth in our dating and sexual cultures by belittling those who are simply broadcasting their desires, rather than keeping them secret and having to restate them every time a lack of a match occurs.

Sorry for the wall of text, clearly this is a hot button issue for me ;-) I wish society valued honesty more than it gives it lip service for.

I think I'm polyamorous. Whenever I date a guy I always feel a deep connection to them but I can't stop thinking of other guys. How do I "come out" as polyamorous and find others that I'm attracted to that are also polyamorous?

Thu, 28 Mar 2013 21:16:19 -0500

Tell people you are poly when you go on dates or even when you first meet online, and look for other poly guys on poly dating sites :-)

You’re not racist if your cock doesn’t get hard for all men equally, just like...

Tue, 19 Feb 2013 07:29:52 -0600

You’re not racist if your cock doesn’t get hard for all men equally, just like you’re not sexist if your cock doesn’t get hard for girls.

Treat everyone nicely, even those you don’t want to bone… but don’t let assholes bring you down because you won’t fuck them.

I love fucking drag queens and fems,But love being a bottom to Muscle big men and totaly being their bottom service boy is this common?

Mon, 18 Feb 2013 21:22:00 -0600

Totally common, from what I’ve found in my friend’s experiences!

Thanks to the reply once again. I am just curious if you ever play with asians? I am one myself slim skinny, smooth, hairless below and prefer to bottom. I do top occasionally and I do a pretty good job if I did top. I definitely look forward to a chance to have a go with you. The other question would be if you shaved, trim, wax or any other treatments to the hairs below? What are your opinions on them? I always fancy smooth but can't be bothered to plug them every two weeks. Cheers mate.

Thu, 14 Feb 2013 10:39:31 -0600

I’m not flat-out against having sex with any type of man, but I have not had a history of playing with more than a few asian men in the course of my life ;-)

Hey David, Thanks to your responds about handsfree cumming. I was jut wondering if you ever did visit Singapore or Australia?

Wed, 13 Feb 2013 23:34:04 -0600

Never have :-)

Hey I just bought a raw dawg from FT and I love the material. It feels amazing as jackoff sleeve. My question is how do you get it in your ass? Like whats the best way to insert it. Thanks

Tue, 12 Feb 2013 19:32:09 -0600

Either I loosen up with a dildo first, and slide it in (after a few flippy-floppy tries) or I just put it over a dildo and put it in that way ;-)

What are Thursdays like at Steamworks? How dark is it and how do you navigate around without lights? It seems like it's plenty dark on a normal night. Is the hot tub area the same, or do they dim the lights there as well? And how do the crowds compare vs. the weekend? Thanks.

Sun, 10 Feb 2013 14:06:07 -0600

The lights don’t go out, and they give you a free mini-LED flashlight when you arrive to help see. The whole club’s lights are dimmed (except the locker rooms & gym) but it’s still pretty easy to move around. The crowd on Thursday is bested only by Friday and Saturday, so I’d say you should go check it out!

How do you start a bukkake scene at steam works?

Sat, 19 Jan 2013 19:41:19 -0600

Easy: you ask guys if they want to do a bukkake scene.

How much time and money do you spend at steamworks? Is it worth the price?

Fri, 11 Jan 2013 07:38:23 -0600

I go about once a week or so, and therefore YES! It’s totally worth it!

Hey I find it interesting reading your blog and the pictures you posted. I am quite a big fan of fort troff. I bought the ass plug tunnel small from them. It is amazing. Well, I wanted to ask if you ever use poppers to enhance your sexual life experience? How does it make you feel or what are you opinions on them? Another thing I did wish to try is to get fucked till I cum without touching my own cock. I tried so many times and would still require my hands. Have you ever experienced it yourself?

Sat, 05 Jan 2013 21:24:34 -0600

I do not use poppers and have never experienced a hands-free orgasm.

I just went to steamworks and I'm freaking out that I might have caught something. I only had a dick in my mouth for 4 seconds and when I went to the glory hole room, the other guy put my dick in his ass. It took me 3 seconds to figure it out and I took it out immediately. Should I worry? I don't think I have anything to worry about.

Sat, 05 Jan 2013 21:23:53 -0600

I am not a doctor, so always take that into account.

While the likelyhood of you having caught something is pretty rare, I’d still continue to use condoms with all partners until you’ve been tested for HIV & STDs and come back with clear results (meaning a 6 month window for HIV).

hey man - i have a question about the raw dawg. i love to btm and usually cum hands free just from getting fucked. i agree with you that it seems to take the place of a rubber so cool for a top to fuck me bare and even cum in me (in the toy). but good advice on using a 'female condom' to be extra safe. my question is - does it stay in your ass pretty well when getting pounded? I know it has a 'knot' on the end like a butt plug but i want to see if it seems to come out during a hard pounding.

Thu, 03 Jan 2013 11:02:21 -0600

I’ve never had the raw dawg come out of me from a hard pounding, and I’ve received quite a few hard poundings from quite a few big dicks before ;-)

Do you use condoms for oral at steamworks? How do you balance the risk of catching shit with the missing hotness factor?

Mon, 31 Dec 2012 15:27:34 -0600

No, I do not. I don’t use a condom when giving oral to anyone. The guys at Steamworks are the same guys on Grindr, at the local bars, or that you meet at Starbucks. They’re no different.

Does Steamworks have Leather or Uniform Nights im into hard Cocks in chaps

Wed, 19 Dec 2012 11:36:06 -0600

join their newsletter :-) they post about fetish nights all the time

Raw Dawg Review - The Best Anal Sex Toy, Ever

Tue, 11 Dec 2012 00:26:00 -0600

Here we go, my full review of the Fort Troff Raw Dawg.

Firstly, keep in mind that I’m not a doctor of any kind, so don’t take my words as medical advice. In fact, don’t take any advice I ever give… it might be bad for health and / or I might have no idea what I’m talking about. Consult a professional before doing anything, ever.

Also, I’m not doing this review for anything from Fort Troff - I’m doing it because I’m obsessed with this toy (not that I wouldn’t mind a little gift from the Troff, like another Raw Dawg that I could use on a friend, if there were feeling so obliged).

So far I’ve owned the Raw Dawg for a week and have used it several times. I’ve used it solo with a dildo (inside me for 20m), twice in 1-on-1 play sessions (inside me for 30m each time), and once for a long night at Steamworks (inside me for 4hrs, fucked by 5 different guys, a few whom had really thick cocks!).

In short, the Raw Dawg is pretty much the best thing ever for bottoming. Honestly I think it’s the best innovation in sex since lube. And no, I’m not being dramatic, I really do love this toy that much.

Inserting it can take a few tries (if you don’t have a cock or a dildo inside of it to ‘stiffen’ it up) so be patient. But remember: it’s super squishy and stretchy, so you can easily stretch it over some fingers in order to get it inside.

The part about the Raw Dawg that I love the most is that when a top is fucking you the Raw Dawg expands outward. This sounds obvious at first but it’s how it effects your body on the inside that really gets me. When a cock (etc) slides in and out of you, it can really annoy the lining of your hole. This is one of the biggest reasons why bottoms need a break (or just tire of bottoming for the night altogether) is because no matter how much lube you use all that rubbing starts to hurt. However, since the Raw Dawg stays still inside of you, the top still gets the sensation of insertion / extraction but the bottom only feels an sense of “fullness” (for lack of a better term) when a cock (etc) is inserted into the Raw Dawg.

This ‘expansion’ (rather than ‘rubbing’) is precisely made me able to bottom for a long, Long, LONG time whenever I’ve used the Raw Dawg so far (especially in that 4hr, 5 guy session at Steamworks). Without the Raw Dawg I would have lasted for maybe 2 guys at Steamworks, and definitively not for 4 hours of bottoming… I may be vers, but I’m not that good!

Also, I deeply adore that the item is essentially a super thick condom. Yes, I know, I know, I know, they “officially state” it’s not condom safe / a condom replacement (and I’m not a doctor, remember? so ignore everything I’m writing about in this review, it’s all terrible advice). To me it’s insanely hot knowing that a top doesn’t have to wrap up before dipping his dick into your hole (in fact, you could easily back up to a cock at a glory hole (or 10), with a Raw Dawg inside of you. It’s also great for those moments when a top wants to switch from having you suck his dick, to fucking your hole, to sucking his dick again and you don’t want to use 30 condoms for a single fuck-session.

For those sticklers I’d recommend putting a female condom on OVER the Raw Dawg before putting it inside of you (that way the whole toy is wrapped inside a federally approved safer-sex device).

Another bonus is that due to the awesome materials the Raw Dawg is made out of, you can use any lube with it. People who like to jerk / fuck with oil based lubes now can go to town pounding away at a Raw Dawg inside your warm hole without needing to buy / use special condoms. Guys who like to use spit-and-fuck: they’re golden too! You can even mix-and-match lubes in a fuck session without concerns!

Speaking of tops pounding away at your hole, the whole inside of the Raw Dawg is textured like the inside of a Fleshjack. So tops will easily get an amazing sensation plowing your hole! Everyone who’s fucked it so far had to take breaks because the sensation was so good they were going to cum sooner than they expected.

Going back to the materials it’s made from, by being super-stretchy and super-squishy it can easily fit any cock, or dildo, or fist. Yes, fist. Just check the Raw Dawg promo video if you doubt it’s stretch-ability. Because it’s super soft the bottom can also leave it in (as I did) for hours-upon-hours without discomfort. While it’s goodly sized (you won’t forget it’s inside of you) it quickly feels comfortable (in an insanely hot way) as it sits inside of you. Walking about and other movement isn’t a worry either, since it’s very lightweight and has a good “nub” on the end it’ll stay firmly inside of your hole like any good plug.

Now, I know this next advantage can make people a little squeamish so I’ll keep it vague, but whether you “prepped” before bottoming for a Raw Dawg or not, it’s pretty-much hassle free. Remember, once the toy is inserted the top ends up fucking the toy, not your hole. The toy stays put. Meaning any… erm… “mess” that might be inside of you will stay inside of you. I know it’s not a pretty conversation point, but the idea of being able to just put a Raw Dawg in and “go” (without needing to prep) might be a really nice alternative for many bottoms.

Lastly, as noted, this thing isn’t thin. It’s not mondo-thick by any means, but it has a bit of heft to it; so when you put over any cock it will easily make that cock even thicker. If you are a bottom who likes girth (or wants to work on girth) this is a great toy to get. And, unlike “training up” with a hard dildo / toy (or a bigger cock) the squishiness of the Raw Dawg makes this girth upgrade rather forgiving.

I mentioned in my tweets earlier this week, if you ever bottom the Raw Dawg is absolutely toy worth getting. This is my absolute favorite anal sex toy ever. Hands down.

Do yourself a favor, get one. Or if you want to have even more fun, get two or three; then the next time you have some vers-buddies come over for a romp, get everyone to put one in. I promise you it will be a blast!

The Raw Dawg absolutely gets the David Ocean Seal of Approval.
Insanely fucking amazingly fantastic.

Have you ever been on a Tuesday or Wednesday night? I'm 18 and really wanna go either tonight or tomorrow but I don't wanna pay if there won't be a lot of guys there!

Sun, 02 Dec 2012 18:48:25 -0600

I usually don’t go on a Tue or a Weds because it’s lower attendance, but there are always lots of guys there!